So you thought it'd be great to write your own vows, but now the proverbial writer's block has hit you squarely on the head. Don't know how to transform your life-altering feelings into a string of coherent words? Just keep in mind that your wedding vows should represent your personality and feelings for your wife-to-be. These easy steps will get your brain juices flowing and bring out your inner Shakespeare.

Prep Step 1

You have to make sure your Solemniser is aware that you will be writing personalised vows. Depending on your religion, you may be required to recite part of the traditional vows, though in most cases, that's left to the Solemniser's discretion. Remember that you should always invite him to review your vows in advance.

Prep Step 2

Make sure you and your fiancée are both on the same page when it comes to the vows: Are you each going to write your own, or will you write them together? Will you show them to each other before the ceremony? If you have decided to recite the same vows, you can always surprise her with some words of your own on the day itself.

Prep Step 3

Decide on the overall tone you want for your vows. Humorous and touching? Poetic and mushy? It's your call; the most important thing is that your vows ring true and sound like they're from your heart.

Prep Step 4

Finally, pick a length for your vows and stick to it. Keep it pithy and to the point; anything longer than two minutes-no matter how gorgeous your prose-and your audience will start to squirm.

Prep Step 5

To help you think of the correct sentiments to include in your vows, try using this list of questions we've put together for you. When you're done, look through your answers for the phrases that best capture your intended message and incorporate them into the structure of your vows.

10 Ways To Say "I Do"

1. What was your first impression when you met your fiancée? Start from the beginning, like how you didn't want to go out and now you're grateful your friends dragged you out.
2. When did you realise you're in love? The more specific you are able to be, the more touching the story will be. Also don't underestimate the power of humour. Throw in one or two playful anecdotes.
3. What do you have now that you didn't have before the both of you met? Focus on your heart and head, not material possessions. Has she taught you to appreciate beauty in a way you've never thought you could before?
4. How has your worldview changed? Life has definitely gotten better since the both of you got together, so tell everyone about it. Think about the new things you've tried or seen with her.
5. What do you miss most when you're apart? This will probably be something mundane but powerful. Is it her smile first thing in the morning, or the way she snuggles up against you when she's cold?
6. Where do you see yourselves in 10 years? 20 years? 40? What are your long-term hopes, dreams and goals?
7. Is there a line from a movie, song or poem that says it all? It's okay to borrow as long as it is not too much of a cliché. We're sorry, but "You complete me" is suffering from overuse.
8. Do certain parts of the traditional vows resonate with you? Maybe you're not too sure about the "Obey" part, but can you really go wrong with "Love, cherish and honour"?
9. What promise can you use to signify your devotion? This is a good place to personalise your vows-many couples pledge their endless love, but how many would promise to share the remote control or let the cat out?
10. Lastly, tell everyone what you are most looking forward to about married life. Let us remind you that the wedding is just the beginning.