Common Bedroom Blunders
2017-12-11

Practice makes perfect — and the saying applies when it comes to getting intimate with your partner in the bedroom as well. One of the many important aspects to any committed relationship is the intimacy one shares with their partner. The thing with physical intimacy, though, is that some partners might be more experienced between the sheets than the other.

While most couples are able to find the perfect middle ground in the bedroom, there are others who can’t seem to get into the groove and experience unwanted bedroom blunders. Here are some common situations faced by couples and how you can try and fix them.

Having sex “your way” only

Everyone has their own style in bed; some like it rough while others like it gentle. While in most relationships one partner takes the lead more often than the other, it doesn’t hurt to stop in between to ask your partner if they would like to change things up to their style instead. At the end of the day, making love is about connecting with each other, not ignoring one another.

Lack of foreplay

Sometimes in the heat of passion, some partners might forget about foreplay because they’re all ready to go. The problem is, your partner may still need some time to get to where you are right now. Listen to your partner’s needs by feeling out their energy and body movements carefully; the last thing they would need is someone to rush them into things. Enjoy this time with your partner by taking some time teasing them. After all, all good things comes to those who wait.

Being passive

Sometimes, people mistake passiveness as pleasing your partner’s needs. Yet, most go on without realising that being passive in bed makes the other feel like that they’re the only one interested in getting intimate with the other. Learn to get comfortable with each by communicating your wants and needs, and be open to exploring things outside your comfort zone. Not only does taking your partner’s consideration into account show them that you care about their needs, it also spices things up in the bedroom.

Foregoing personal hygiene

Forgetting to take care of your personal hygiene is a big no-no shared almost universally amongst all couples. Apart from obvious unpleasant smells, poor hygiene could potentially invite unwanted diseases. The last thing you or your partner would want to do is get intimate with big ol’ stinky just because they’re too lazy to shower that day.

Assuming your partner’s sex drive

Depending on where you live in this world, some people say men have higher sex drives than women, or vice versa. Whatever the case, don’t believe this expectation for a second because men and women could both just as easily like or dislike sex equally. Ultimately, one’s sex drive differs from one person to the other as each individual is unique — so don’t assume your partners sex drive, just ask and you may be surprised with their answer.

Expecting your partner to read your mind

While we would all love to think that our spouses are our better halves, your significant other is not a mind reader. Communication is essential when it comes to intimacy because it lets both partners enter each other’s world and understand it by talking through their desires and dislikes in the bedroom. If communicating is not in your nature, then show your partner with gentle and clear directions, they’ll surely appreciate the effort.