A Guide to Wedding Proposals
Congratulations, you’re about to be engaged! Whether you’re confident or looking to takes a leap of faith, there are some mistakes you don’t want to make at this crucial moment. Read through our list of things to avoid before you ask the big question!
Broaching the Subject
Indeed, it’s more romantic if it’s a surprise, but we aren’t asking you to go through your proposal in detail with your partner. What’s important is that you have discussed marriage before, which ensures that you both are on the same page and are ready to take the relationship to the next level. It’s better to find out their view for the future before hand, so that you start the next stage of your relationship with a complete understanding of each other.
Make It a Formal Experience
While some ladies don’t require big flourishes, others prefer a nicely planned out proposal. Either way, the key is to be serious and sincere. Even if your carefully plotted proposal date is not going the way you’d like or you didn’t have a plan to begin with, the key is to make an effort nonetheless.
Nobody likes being asked to get married offhandedly, as though you didn’t really think things through first or aren’t really serious. While this is commonplace, asking if you “want to BTO” is not as romantic as it sounds in your head. Be prepared, have a ring (preferably), try to do it somewhere that’s meaningful for the both of you and most of all, don’t be afraid to dig into your feelings for that heartfelt proposal.
Make Your Proposal Unique
On that note, you need to keep in mind the person you’re proposing to. More often than not, we tend to follow the latest proposal trends. While there’s nothing wrong with doing so, it is important to personalise the experience.
At the end of the day, you know your partner the best and it’s up to you to propose in a way that they will enjoy. It doesn’t always have to be large and spectacular, but it should be special for you both.
Refrain From Overly Public Proposals
The whole flash mob idea where you sweep your partner off their feet and dazzle them with a huge gesture in front of dozens who chant, “Say yes” when you propose is a very grand, romantic idea. However, this may not always be the best option, especially if your lady is not a fan of attention.
Although the intention is to demonstrate your overwhelming love, you inadvertently put them in a spot by making them the ‘bad guy’ if they say no and they may end up feeling pressured to say yes without really thinking it through or meaning it. Consider your partner’s character, because they may feel more awkward than thrilled and your wonderful surprise might be more of an uncomfortable shock!
Avoid Hiding the Ring in Your Food
Again, another very romantic idea whereby your partner discovers a brilliantly cut ring in a mouthful of cake or something in that vein is not always as splendid as it sounds. If you must go down the edibles route, it is recommended to put it somewhere visible like the top of the cake or in a glass of champagne. Because as sweet and surprising as the thought of finding a ring in your mouth may be, your partner may swallow it or bite down on it too hard, both of which is rather unpleasant to say the least.
Propose With a Plan for the Future
Proposing without financial stability or plans for the future is not ideal. It is important for both parties should have a clear idea on how exactly that will be realised, rather than discovering you can’t afford a wedding after proposing!
Hopefully, this list has given you a better idea of the things you should keep in mind before proposing!