A Guide to Choosing Your Maid of Honour
2019-03-05

No one in the wedding party is as important as the bride and groom, but the maid of honour comes a close second (or third). After all, who else is going to produce that miracle safety pin when you need it the most? That said, selecting a maid of honour is an important decision to make. Here are a few things you need to keep in mind when you’re deciding on your maid of honour to ensure a stress-free and fun wedding!

The Stress Test

Unless you have that one bestie you’d always know would be your maid of honour you should consider who to select from your close friends based on the strength of your friendship. Planning and executing a wedding is a long and often stressful process which may put your ties in a pressure cooker. Choose a friend you know can handle the heat and who will still be your bestie regardless of the disagreements you may have about the venue right down to the colour of your dress.

Hey, Soul Sister

Ideally, the maid of honour knows you as well as, or even better than you know yourself. On the actual wedding day, the bride and groom are often too occupied to deal with last-minute changes. Here, the maid of honour should be able to step in and make small decisions for the couple. 
People Person or Wallflower?

The maid of honour is also the one who will be the main point of contact for the bridesmaids and most of the wedding party. Ideally, you should pick someone who gets along with everyone, especially your bridesmaids, and who has good leadership qualities. When in doubt, go with someone who’s charismatic.

It’s Not Easy to be Free

Another practicality to consider is if your chosen maid of honour has time to perform all her duties. Maids of honours have tons of things to attend to and if your chosen gal pal is already juggling a busy schedule in her own life, you may want to reconsider as this role may add to her stress!

Team Player and Independent Lady

With luck, your maid of honour should be a good mix of both, being able to take directions and work with you, as well as go about her duties on her own and take initiative. This will mean that you won’t have to worry about doing any hand holding while you’re dealing with other responsibilities.

The job scope of a maid of honour fluctuates from bride to bride so each one may be on the lookout for different traits. Regardless of what you decide, just remember that you and your maid of honour should be a source of support for each other and to have fun planning for your wedding and on the actual wedding day!